Staying together or not?
Sometimes, when there’s nothing else for it, marriages and relationships end in divorce or separation and couples have to go their separate ways. If you have children, it’s important that your break-up goes as smoothly as possible to have as little impact on them as you can manage. Even if you don’t have kids, any relationship break down can affect all other areas of your life.
It can be really hard to know whether a relationship is worth trying to save or not.
Maybe you’ve been unhappy for some time. Maybe you feel you’ve tried everything. Even so, when you’ve children together it’s worth taking time to do all you can to make sure that separating is the right decision.
Talk about your problems
It can be scary to talk about your problems and let your partner know how you’re feeling. It may make your problems feel more real. You may be afraid of starting an argument.
However, you’ll need to take a long, hard look at your problems if you want to find a way forward.
You’ll need to be willing to:
- Understand yourself
- Listen to your partner
- Make changes
Accept the ‘non-perfect’ reality
Even if you decide to separate, talking can help. It will help make your adjustment to being separated parents in the future easier. If you find that your conversations go round in circles, or it’s just too difficult to start to talk about your problems, have an initial assessment could help you to come to a decision that you feel is the right one for you. I will not tell you what to do and won’t take sides. I will listen and help you explore your options. You can come for counselling on your own or with your partner.