Feeling unsatisfied in your relationship

Boredom in relationship

When you start a new relationship, everything can be exciting. Those early flickers of attraction, feeling butterflies, your first kiss… it can be a rollercoaster of emotion.

But after you’ve been together for a while, things tend to level off a bit. The fizz and pop are replaced by a sense of partnership and familiarity. As the routines of life, work and living together begin to settle, your relationship might start to feel a bit more predictable.

And while there’s nothing wrong with not always feeling like you did at the start, if being settled also means starting to feel bored, you might soon start to wonder whether there’s anything more interesting out there. 

But looking for solutions elsewhere is rarely the best place to start. It’s much better to begin by thinking about what’s happening in the here and now. 

Boredom can be linked to bad habits when it comes to communication and maintaining your connection as a couple.

Feeling like one-sided relationship

Feeling like your relationship is one-sided can be painful and upsetting. It can make you feel like a spare part in someone else’s life – as if you aren’t as important to your partner as they are to you.

There are a variety of things that can make a relationship feel as if it’s one sided. Perhaps you find you’re always making the plans while your partner is ambivalent or apathetic. Perhaps you feel like it’s always up to you to maintain contact when you’re apart. Or perhaps it’s just a general feeling that you’re putting the relationship first in ways they aren’t – as if it’s one of the most important things in your life, but just ‘something’ in theirs.