Distorted Mourning

Traumatic Grief And How EMDR Can Help

The grief reaction to loss is wired into us. However, mourning is not only grief, but also the mourner’s self-adjusting to the new reality of life without the loved one in order to cope with the loss. It is an ongoing process.

People may know that they are struggling if they are experiencing any of the following signs of traumatic grief such as;

  • avoiding reminders of the deceased,
  • feelings of negativity about the future,
  • numbness and detachment,
  • stunned, dazed, or shocked,
  • difficulty acknowledging the death,
  • feeling that life is empty or meaningless,
  • difficulty imagining a fulfilling life without the deceased,
  • feeling that part of oneself has died,
  • shattered world view,
  • engaging in self harming behaviors to cope with grief,
  • excessive irritability, bitterness, or anger related to the death.

EMDR therapy can help to relieve grief and loss. People can be at greater risk for complicated grief when the deceased death is sudden or unexpected, the loss of a child, death after a long illness, a death that the mourner feels was preventable, unresolved feeling towards the deceased before the death and the mourners perceived lack of social support after the death.